Christmas & Happy New Year!
What a special time of the year! For me, there is a
spiritual dimension that is timeless and an
anticipation of the coming New Year that reminds me
that I am being given another opportunity to improve
my life and my contributions to my world.
When I was a college freshman, my English teacher
introduced me to this gem. I’d like to leave this
with you as my Christmas gift to you, for it expresses
what I deeply believe. Fra Giovanni Giocondo, a
Renaissance pioneer and a Franciscan friar, wrote it
on Christmas Eve, 1513. The message is timeless.
“There is nothing I can give you which you have not;
but there is much, very much, that, while I cannot
give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless
our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven! No peace
lies in the future, which is not hidden in the
present. Take peace!
The gloom of the world is but a shadow. Behind it, yet
within our reach, is joy. Take joy! There is a
radiance and glory in the darkness could we but see,
and to see, we have only to look. I beseech you to
look. Life is so generous a giver, but we, judging its
gifts by the covering, cast them away as ugly, or
heavy, or hard. Know the covering, and you fill find
beneath it a living splendor, woven of love, by
wisdom, with power. Welcome it, grasp it, and you
touch the angel's hand that brings it to you.
Everything we call a trial, a sorrow or a duty,
believe me, that angel's hand is there: the gift is
there, and the wonder of an overshadowing presence.
Life is so full of meaning and purpose, so full of
beauty — beneath its covering — that you will find
earth but cloaks your heaven. Take courage then to
claim it; that is all! But courage you have; and the
knowledge that we are pilgrims together, wending
through unknown country, to our home.
And so, at this Christmas time, I greet you. Not quite
as the world sends greetings, but with profound esteem
and with the prayer that for you, now and forever, the
day breaks and the shadows flee away.
Secret Every Top Performer Knows
We admire the world’s top performers in any field.
Their excellence seems so natural that we rarely
ponder what they did to get to that point. In an NPR
broadcast, I heard an interview of Atul Gawande,
professor of surgery at Harvard Medical School. Dr.
Gawande was at Wimbledon, watching the tennis
tournament when he noticed tennis star Raphael
Nadal’s coach encouraging him from the sidelines.
Dr. Gawande asks, “If one of the world’s greatest
tennis players has a coach, why shouldn’t doctors
and teachers?” Let’s go to the other extreme.
Consider someone who has a disability in the very area
that he has to perform. For example, imagine some one
with a severe stuttering problem whose job requires
him to speak in public. How can that be, you ask? Did
you see the movie, The King’s Speech?
movie showed how Prince Albert, who was soon to become
King George VI, engaged the services of a self-taught
speech pathologist, an Australian-born commoner,
Lionel Logue, to help him overcome his speech
problems. Under Logue’s coaching, King George VI
went on to give many speeches that played an important
role in uniting Britain during WWII. Most of us fall
between Raphael Nadal and King George VI. Have you
considered a coach to help you in your game or field,
whatever that may be?
Since you are receiving my e-newsletter, I assume that
you are interested in becoming a more effective public
speaker, communicator, and presenter. Congratulations
for exposing yourself to ideas and guidance that can
make a difference in your performances as a speaker
and presenter. A life coach named Craig Roderick
wrote, “Coaching is only for those who are up to
being something far greater than “how to” books
can take them…that is, further than their own
natural talent can take them. They must be willing to
sacrifice what they are, for what they can become.”
As a New Year is about to dawn, find out how a speech
can help you reach your goals. If you are a
non-native English speaker, discover pronunciation
so others understand you. If you are a
leader and would like to be better able to inspire
your followers, discover the principles of great inspirational
. If you are a good speaker but would like
to have a more pleasing voice and greater vocal
, learn simple exercises that will make
your voice enjoyable to your listeners. If you are
very nervous about speaking in public, get some
practical tips on overcoming your presentation
. If you think that you are too good to
need the services of a speech coach, discover the
powerful secret of the first wish that Aladdin used to
attain his heart’s desire as he walked his Path
of the Genie
Why do people who do want a speech coach not engage
one? The two most common reasons given are lack of
time and lack of money. This brings me to an exciting
announcement that will minimize the obstacles of time
and money. Introducing Dr.
Dilip’s Diamonds Club
As a member, you will receive:
- A weekly video training session
on how you can become a more competent and
confident public speaker. This will run from 8-10
minutes and you can play it as many times as you
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- Free quarterly webinars, which
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well as special communication topics that will
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- Receive an evaluation of your upcoming
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a speech you are preparing to give. Receive expert
feedback that will inform you about what you are
doing well and receive practical tips on how to
improve your presentation.
- A Q & A Forum where you can
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communication. Learn from the answers, not just to
your questions, but also answers to questions
posed by others.
You can hurdle time and money obstacles because for a
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Details of Dr. Dilip’s
Diamonds Club announced
Private speech coaching
for individual professionals
January 1, 2012:
Happy New Year!
January 11, 2012:
Grand Opening of
Dr. Dilip’s Diamonds Club – First video training
session sent to members.
to Think About
“The doorstep to the temple of wisdom is the
knowledge of one’s own ignorance.”
- Charles Spurgeon
The average person speaks at a rate of 110-150 words
per minute (wpm).
The reason you frequently cannot properly pronounce
the words of a foreign language is because you don't
know how to use your tongue and throat to make those
The introduction of your speech should take no more
than 10% of the entire length of the speech.
Research has shown that the believability of a message
is more influenced by a speaker's body language than
by the actual words spoken.
A professional speaker, unlike a comedian, uses humor
to make a point, not just to make people laugh.
When you speak to an audience with bright lights
shining down on you, you cannot see the people sitting
in the first few rows in the front.
An easy and fun way for you to improve the quality of
your voice is to join a choir.
Average people, not just top athletes, are
increasingly hiring coaches to help them achieve their
Toastmasters International, the world's leading
volunteer organization for helping people develop
their communication and leadership skills is now in
116 countries, has more than 13,000 chapters, and more
than 270,000 members.
Dr. Dilip has been a speech coach, trainer, and
keynote speaker for nineteen years.