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What Does Christmas have to do with Public Speaking?

Good question. From my point of view, there is a connection. In the Gospel of Matthew we read about the visit of “Magi (wise men) from the east” to the newborn Jesus. We read that the wise men “fell down and worshipped Jesus and then, opening their treasures, they offered him gifts, gold, and frankincense, and myrrh.” That spirit of giving has become a hallmark of this season. 


Giving gifts to others at this time of the year transcends religious, national, and ethnic boundaries. But what does that have to do with the public speaker, you ask? My answer is that you and I are reminded in this season of gift giving that every time we speak to an audience, we have an opportunity to “open our treasures” and offer gifts of inestimable value. Just as the Magi gave their gifts in reverence to the Christ child, we public speakers have the opportunity to give our gifts to the audience with an attitude of humility, respect, and service. 


Regardless of the type of presentation you do, here are four things you can always give your audiences that will stamp you as special, because you deliver a special GIFT to your audiences when you present:

Goal – Before you construct the speech, get a clear idea of the specific purpose for your speech. As a result of hearing your presentation, what do you want the audience members to know or do? Construct your speech to support that end result. Before the end of your introduction, reveal or at least hint at your end purpose to your audience.

Inspire – Add a dash of inspiration to every presentation. Even a business briefing need not be dull; find a way to add a sparkle, a hope, a glint of future possibilities for your audience and/or organization.

Fruit – Your presentation must have substance. Sparkle without substance is only fluff. Substance with sparkle will make your presentation appealing and memorable. If your presentation is like a plant, offer “fruit” (substance) as well as flowers (inspiration).

Tie-in – Conclude your presentation with a wrap up of what you want your audience members to take away from it. Tie the conclusion to the specific purpose of your presentation. That is the “tie-in.” When you conclude your presentation, audience members should know clearly what they are supposed to do with what they learned from your presentation.


There you have it — every presentation is a GIFT; an opening up of your treasures and a generous offering of them to your audience members with respect, humility, and a heart of service. When you do that, you will carry the Christmas spirit of giving to every presentation. You too will be a Magi!


A Special Letter to my Subscribers:

One of the most inspirational Christmas writings I have ever encountered was shared with me by my English literature professor when I was a college freshman many years ago. The authenticity of this letter has never been verified, but whether it was written 500 years ago or not, it is full of beauty and wisdom and is a true reflection of the spirit of the season of Advent. Here it is – A Letter to the most illustrious, the Contessina Allagia Dela Aldobrandeschi, written by Fra Giovanni, Christmas Eve, 1513.


I am your friend and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you, which you have not got, but there is much, very much, that while I cannot give it, you can take.


No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven! No peace lies in the future, which is not hidden in this present little instant. Take peace! 


The gloom of the world is but a shadow. Behind it, yet within our reach is joy. There is radiance and glory in the darkness could we but see – and to see, we have only to look. I beseech you to look! 


Life is so generous a giver, but we, judging its gifts by the covering, cast them away as ugly, or heavy or hard. Remove the covering and you will find beneath it a living splendor, woven of love, by wisdom, with power.


Welcome it, grasp it, touch the angel’s hand that brings it to you. Everything we call a trial, a sorrow, or a duty, believe me, that angel’s hand is there, the gift is there, and the wonder of an overshadowing presence. Our joys, too, be not content with them as joys. They, too, conceal diviner gifts.


Life is so full of meaning and purpose, so full of beauty beneath its covering, that you will find earth but cloaks your heaven.


Courage then, to claim it, that is all. But courage you have, and the knowledge that we are all pilgrims together, wending through unknown country, home.


And so, at this time, I greet you. Not quite as the world sends greetings, but with profound esteem and with the prayer that for you, now and forever, the day breaks, and the shadows flee away.




And from me to you: Best wishes for a blessed and merry Christmas and a very happy and fulfilling New Year!



Diamond Tip – The Simplicity of Eloquence


Q: I’ve heard eloquent speakers and yearn to be more eloquent. I’m trying hard to expand my vocabulary and use more flowery speech but I haven't quite got there. Can you give me some tips on how to be a more eloquent speaker?


Dr. Dilip: I have good news for you! Eloquence does not depend on flowery language and complex words. Eloquence is the language of the heart, spoken simply, clearly, and with love. Don't confuse simplicity with being simple-minded. Simplicity for a speaker is the ability to boil down a concept or an idea into its most fundamental elements and to present it with a focus on the topic adapted to the audience. That’s it. There is no pretense of one’s own importance or learning. If you have any depth of simplicity, clarity, and love, then you can speak with eloquence.


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